Posts Tagged ‘coach’

20
Apr

Is it Time to Re-examine Your Concept of Success?

   Posted by: JohntheMentor    in Encouragement, Ideas, Strategy

Today’s post comes courtesy of a guest blogger, Susan Henderson (www.susanhenderson.com).  I have been following Susan’s newsletter “The Successful Dilettante” for a couple of years.    If you like this post, I would encourage you to check out Susan’s website and sign up for her newsletter.

Is it Time to Re-examine Your Concept of Success?

In writing or speaking about success so many self help experts and gurus will tell you that if you just do exactly what successful people are doing then you will also have success.

As if it is a given that borrowing someone else’s concept of success is the best way for you to attain success.

In fact, I am a long time subscriber to an e-newsletter from a success coach I greatly admire and as I was preparing my notes and thoughts to write this article his latest issue dropped into my inbox and, lo and behold, his main article was based on this premise of success: “Success is the predictable result of doing the things that others have done to create or achieve the results we want in our lives.” It’s his belief that success is based on learnable skills and tasks. And he goes on to say that “as long as we live in a predictable, orderly universe, success is basically an engineering problem.” I mean no disrespect to this gentleman and although there were many points in this article that I agree with, this wasn’t one of them. Holy Moly – What a left-brained concept!

While I agree that practice makes perfect, I don’t agree that one size fits all when it comes to defining or even achieving success. Many people think success is a goal to be achieved somewhere out there in the future and is usually attached to fame and/or fortune. I believe success is an ongoing process and is congruent with doing what you love. Dare I say it – success could actually be considered an emotion we would all like to feel. It is personal and only you can define what success means to you.

So how do you define success for yourself? The best method I’ve learned came from my beloved mentor coach (from afar), the late, great Thomas Leonard. Several years ago, I attended a teleseminar where he shared a process in defining what is most important to you.

The first step is to choose an area of your life where you most want to define success and complete this sentence:
I know how successful I am by how [fill in the blank here].

The wording is important because it not only clarifies how you define success but, more importantly, how you know you are being successful at any given time. It’s a place to check in. You will want to tinker with your success definitions until they evoke a strong feeling response; and, possibly a tingle or shiver through your body.

Come up with at least three definitions, but ideally you will create a success statement for each of the areas of your life that matter to you. Here are some examples from my own life from what I value most:

Creativity: I know how successful I am by how delighted I feel when I am using my creativity.

Independence: I know how successful I am when I wake up and know that the pace and place of my day are totally determined by me.

Nature: I know how successful I am by how my connection with nature nurtures me.

I think you will be surprised by how quickly success begets success when you are armed with your own clear concepts of what it looks like and feels like for you.

With loving kindness,

Susan

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I now have my CPC (Certified Professional Coach) designation. I have that because I took the training and passed the certification assessments. And I am proud of it.

While I have been offering coaching in addition to mentoring and consulting (though not as prominently as the mentoring), some people think they are pretty much synonymous. They aren’t, really. Each serves a different purpose.

Coaching is about helping you achieve your (relatively) short-term goals. Quite often, a coaching engagement will last for a block of 3 or 4 or 6 months. That is enough time to actually accomplish the short-term goals of most people. After that, many individuals have the tools they need to keep going on their own.

They may come back after a time with a new, bigger goal they need a coach to help with. After all, a coach is both a resource, a cheerleader, and an enabler. Some people need that coach to push them to greater efforts. They want to do it, but need the encouragement and accountability to make it happen.

A mentor, paid or unpaid, has a longer-term view in mind. He usually has a one-year to many-year viewpoint. His work with you is aimed at more ambitious and long-range development for you.

The mentor also brings a different set of tools and skills to bear in working with you. He is likely to have “been there, done that” in the specific industries, positions, or skill-sets that you are seeking help with. In many cases, you are paying for his wisdom. He will work with you to develop areas in you that need enhancing so that you can grow into your long-term goals. They may not always be comfortable.

A consultant does a different job. He works on a specific project with specific deliverables by a specific deadline. The consultant may be using a variety of tools to meet his deliverables. Those tools might be his wisdom, his experience, his knowledge, his industry know-how or skills, or some combination of all of them.

The consultant’s engagement could be for one day (as specific task or analysis) to a couple of years (a complex project with many different aspects of the consultant’s talents and skills utilized.)

As you can see, they each fill a different need. And different people have different talents. One individual might excel at being a coach, another as a mentor, and third as a consultant. Others are find it easy to be one or two of them. And, some, are able to be all three (although not at the same time in the same engagement.)

Have you had experiences with coaches? Or mentors? What is your take on it? Use the comments and let us know.

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20
Feb

Sometimes, Coach is First Class

   Posted by: JohntheMentor    in Encouragement, Growing the Business, Helps

I confess that this post has been triggered by the Olympics. I was watching the pairs figure skating competition and they did a vignette on the coach whose performers ultimately took first and second place in the competition.

The commentators (who were gold medalists in skating, themselves, from previous Olympics) said several times that if they won, it was as much a victory for the coach as it was for themselves.

I got to pondering that because most of the time, you don’t hear such blatant credit being given to the coach. Then again, the Russian contender in the pairs skating was a Japanese woman who moved to Russia in order to be coached by the top skating coach in Russia. Hmmm. Is that telling us something?

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